Cute Ass Shaking

You’ve lost that lovin’ feeling Let’s look inward for a moment with a series of questions to see if something is short-circuiting what is a normal, God-given drive. Are you angry or bitter at your wife? Is there a reason for your anger? Has she wronged you? Has she disappointed you? Mocked you? If so, consider Colossians 3:13, “Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another. Forgive as the Lord forgave you.” Is your sexual desire being siphoned off and satisfied by a regular diet of pornography and masturbation? For many men, pornography has become the preferred expression of their sexuality because it represents a “no risk” and “no failure” approach to sex. Are you driven at work to such a point that you are totally spent when you get home? Some men are out of touch with their emotions simply because they’re working too hard. Like Svetin, the “burned-out lover” I mentioned, they are so spent by 16- or 18-hour days, they have nothing left to invest in their marriages. Are you in denial about some other type of sin in your life? Sin can suppress our most powerful appetites. Do your wife’s past sexual experiences before marriage anger you or intimidate you? Did someone touch you inappropriately when you were a boy? Past sexual abuse can truly inhibit healthy sexual expression in mar­riage. Did you grow up in a family where you were made to think sex was dirty? Were you made to feel shame for your interest in sex? Were you caught viewing pornography or masturbating? Could it be that you tried to initiate at a point early in your mar­riage and you failed to perform or your wife rejected you? Is the risk of failure simply too great now? Or are you withdrawing from her sex­ually as a strategy to protect yourself?